| Many of us have used affirmations at some point in | | | | We go to toilet in the toilet, which we then flush. We |
| our healing journey. Affirmations are statements that | | | | pour gone-off milk in the sink. It is not only perfectly |
| we repeat to declare to ourselves that they are our | | | | OK but highly desirable to get rid of this waste. And |
| new truth, and of course we want our new state of | | | | there is a right way to do it; in the bin, toilet, or sink. |
| being to be a positive one. For example, a person | | | | Not disposing of your waste is at best unthinkable |
| aiming to be more confident may say to themselves | | | | and at worst a state of putrid filth. |
| "I am confidently calm"; and eventually, they will start | | | | In EFT, we bring up our emotional waste by calling it |
| believing it and feeling more confident. We all know | | | | up using a simple negative statement or phrase. This |
| that we must not repeat negative affirmations to | | | | is just like holding the gone-off milk over the sink and |
| ourselves. For example, if we keep telling ourselves "I | | | | pouring it and just like going to the toilet. We are |
| am nervous", we can end up believing it and | | | | simply letting go of waste. |
| becoming nervous. | | | | One of the biggest concerns of newcomers to EFT |
| An affirmation can be a statement or phrase. For | | | | tapping is our use of negative statements whilst |
| example, one can say "I am confidently calm" or | | | | tapping. This is because a newcomer may mistake |
| "Confidently calm". | | | | them for negative affirmations. In fact, the negative |
| However, the reverse is not true. A statement or | | | | statements in EFT are not affirmations and have a |
| phrase is not necessarily an affirmation. A statement | | | | completely different role to an affirmation. An |
| or phrase may be constructed using negative | | | | affirmation puts in the positive. An EFT statement or |
| language. | | | | phrase is designed solely for use with tapping for |
| This is just like we must not deliberately soil our | | | | taking out the negative. We do not say negative |
| home. For example, imagine in your home peeling an | | | | things to ourselves in EFT without tapping. It is the |
| onion and leaving the skin on the floor, going to toilet | | | | tapping that disposes of the waste, and the negative |
| on the bed, and pouring gone-off milk on the sofa. | | | | words that bring it up ready for disposal. So we can |
| Of course you would not do that. | | | | be confidently calm disposing of our emotional waste. |
| Instead, we peel an onion and put the skin in the bin. | | | | |