| Many of you may look at my title and
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| | three of them within a couple of weeks.
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| wonder if I have 'lost my marbles.' Let
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| | For example, I love shopping and last
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| me explain. First let me quote from a
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| | week I really enjoyed buying a black
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| wonderful article that was passed around
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| | skirt for fall. It was a small treat but
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| on the web by Clarissa Pinkola Estes,
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| | it was getting back to business as usual
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| Ph.D. entitled: Healing From Terrorism
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| | and felt great!Let's enter the fourth
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| Sickness. She states: "The main goal of
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| | portal: Making Ourselves the Hero or
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| terrorism is 'intentional trauma' to the
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| | Heroine of Our Own Lives. Ah, this is
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| living. The concept of doing ongoing
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| | such an essential step. And yet what does
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| psychic injury to thousands and millions
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| | stress and terror do? They can make us
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| 'all at the same time' is an important
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| | feel meaningless, without purpose, again
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| tactic of terrorists ... innocent persons
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| | emotionally flattened. What is good
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| becoming afraid of life ... (this) hurts
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| | mental health? It encompasses, for sure,
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| the human spirit and heart."Clarissa then
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| | a sense that my life not only has meaning
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| shares many ways to fight this madness
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| | but also was worth it. I not only came
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| including refusing to dwell on what
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| | through difficulties, but the adventure
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| physically depletes us of hope; dwelling
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| | was well worth it! I took the roller
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| in what strengthens us; resting; refusing
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| | coaster ride of a lifetime and came out
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| to think that one is less able than prior
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| | the winner.Often times after a shocking
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| to the assault, and not stopping
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| | event we don't know what role to play or
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| pleasures that are good for you.I don't
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| | feel extraneous to what is going on at
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| know if Clarissa realized that her
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| | 'ground zero'. These are normal feelings
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| suggestions fit perfectly into THE
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| | and we must realize that each of us has a
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| ENCHANTED SELF's Seven Portals to
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| | unique role and purpose in life that no
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| Enchantment, but they do! Let's go
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| | one else can fill.Think about the story
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| through these gateways and see how they
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| | of your life. How did you get this far?
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| preserve us from disenchantment and even
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| | How did your background end up working
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| worse -- terror.The first gateway is the
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| | for you? What have been some of the
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| Gateway of Self-Esteem. When terror
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| | highlights of your life? Look for the
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| strikes it is very common to feel
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| | heroic even on a very small scale. I can
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| vulnerable, of little importance and
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| | guarantee that you will have plenty of
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| perhaps even valueless. This is exactly
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| | opportunities to still use your unique
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| the opposite of how we need to feel for
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| | strengths and talents.I was the little
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| good mental health. To function at my
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| | girl who kept a secret Girl Scout diary
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| best I need to know on a daily basis that
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| | with tons of misspelled words! I wrote
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| I am 'special'. I have traits, strengths
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| | every night not knowing exactly why and
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| and abilities that all come together, not
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| | here I am now with a chance to write to
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| only to help me lead a life of meaning,
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| | you via the Internet. All that practice
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| but help me feel proud and sure of
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| | was part of my story. You have yours and
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| myself. You do too! What are some of your
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| | never forget it!Could you guess that the
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| strengths and/or coping skills? Work with
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| | fifth portal is Belonging to Tribes, or
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| me as you read this and list some. It
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| | communities? Often after a terrorist
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| will be beneficial as we come out of this
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| | attack people are afraid to go out, join
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| terror! Perhaps you have stamina,
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| | others, go about their business. This is
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| compassion, and an ability to reinvent
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| | exactly what the terrorists want and it
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| yourself. Perhaps you are a good at
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| | interferes completely with our human
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| cheering others up or great at making
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| | needs to belong, to share, and to be part
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| fudge!All of these and thousands more
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| | of something. What are some of your
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| qualify as pluses in living!The second
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| | tribes special to you? I hope you make
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| gateway is Meeting Our Needs. Again, when
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| | every effort to get out and stay
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| terror or severe stress hits we often
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| | connected to them. For me, one of my
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| stop doing what is good for ourselves. We
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| | first steps was going to a local rally
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| feel weak and may let go of a growth
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| | and crying, singing, holding hands with
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| experience or learning a new skill that
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| | strangers and donating goods with lots of
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| is good for us. Even after the acute
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| | others.The sixth portal is Finding
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| weakness passes we may feel unsure or no
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| | Mentors. When we are attacked, it is our
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| longer committed to our own goals for
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| | hope and optimism that is often most
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| growth and development. Again, this is
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| | attacked and in essence our future. What
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| exactly the opposite of what is needed
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| | we need most is to get that back. This is
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| for good mental health. Did you let
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| | where mentors help so much. We need to
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| anything go as a result of September
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| | find positive mentors everywhere -- the
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| 11th? You mightwant to make a note about
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| | heroes on television, friends and
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| it and also a new start up date.I did. I
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| | positive e-letters on the web, loved
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| didn't do my television show in NYC that
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| | ones, good books, fine music and even
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| month, as we were asked not to come into
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| | animals that teach us so much about love
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| the city and that was a big loss for me.
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| | and connection. Don't laugh, but laughter
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| I really enjoy teaching the public about
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| | is a mentor of sorts. Laughing takes us
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| positive thinking via television. My
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| | back to our positive center by teaching
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| show, Recipes for Enchantment, not only
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| | us how good it feels to feel good! Who
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| meets many of my needs but it stretches
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| | are some of your mentors?The last portal
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| me and makes me grow further. Yes, I look
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| | is the Gateway of Positive Action. Often,
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| forward to doing the show this month on
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| | when terror strikes we feel helpless and
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| the 17th.The third portal to Enchantment
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| | in paralysis. Good mental health requires
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| is Recognizing Pleasure and Joy. It is
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| | that we move beyond these feelings.
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| very normal after a shock, in this case
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| | Inactivity is not good for us. Positive
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| terrorism, to feel not only emotionally
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| | action is the best antidote to mental
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| flattened, but unable to experience joy.
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| | 'poison.'Why? Because we not only help
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| In fact, often the person doesn't feel
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| | ourselves but others in the process. We
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| entitled to laughter, a good time, etc.
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| | start the chain reaction that eventually
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| For some it is guilt, for others sorrow.
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| | sends a message that we will not be
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| Again, this is exactly the opposite of
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| | swamped by darkness. Remember how much
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| what we need for good mental health.We
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| | darkness one little candle can get rid
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| are not only entitled to live lives of
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| | of? We are each potentially thousands of
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| joy and happiness, we need too! Does this
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| | candles. What are some positive actions
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| mean everything goes right? Absolutely
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| | you can take over the next few weeks? Jot
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| not. What it does mean is that we permit
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| | them down. These actions can feel good to
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| ourselves to maintain an attitude that
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| | do and also be good for you as well as
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| encourages the capacity to experience
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| | others. For me, one of my positive
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| happiness and joy as often as possible.
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| | actions is that I am writing to you and I
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| No one has a right to take that away from
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| | hope that fits the above definition. I
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| us! Now is the time to fight back! What
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| | enjoy writing to you! I look forward to
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| is fun for you? What do you enjoy? What
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| | responses from you and most importantly I
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| gives you pleasure? Write some of these
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| | hope my message has been good for you!
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| things down and plan on doing at least
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