| Battling Cancer is an individual journey that takes all | | | | everything you can muster to handle your work and |
| of heaven and earth to combat. | | | | all of your coping skills. |
| Choose your caregivers well!!: | | | | Advice for the Caregiver: |
| Your Caregiver walks a fine line between reality, | | | | 1. Treat your Cancer client as if they are going to |
| support cheerleader, hand holder, master "hugger" | | | | live. DO NOT treat them as if it's just a matter of |
| and "inspiration machine", and friend, who must give | | | | time. Always speak of their "experience" NEVER a |
| that medicine, drives you to treatment, and fusses at | | | | disease. |
| you to keep you on track for your healing journey. | | | | 2. You will most likely be caught up in the |
| Your Cancer caregiver is your primary filter and | | | | overwhelming environment of caregiving, and handling |
| monitor of your visitors, both family and friends. | | | | every life and medical detail and decision. |
| They should only allow POSITIVE PEOPLE!!! and ONLY | | | | Try to look at the patient and all of their |
| people who are emotionally nourishing for you. | | | | circumstances as if they are in a healing situation, and |
| YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT! | | | | in a positive manner. Don't be a Pollyanna, but try to |
| They should encourage you to be surrounded by | | | | put a positive spin on everything that you can. |
| individuals who treat as if you are living and expect | | | | 3. Although your patient has "determination to live", |
| you to have a future. No "what if'ers,' no "maybe | | | | that determination needs to be rooted in positive. |
| that won't work", or "oh you poor dear", or any | | | | Positive energy raises their body's physical energy |
| others who say negative things. | | | | frequency which fights their disease. |
| If ANYONE ever says to you "before you were living | | | | 4. Creating a positive uplifting environment:a. Dress in |
| with cancer, now you're dying with cancer." | | | | happy colors.b. Help create a environmentally pleasant |
| Remove them from your life until they can be | | | | and visually happy care area. Little touches mean a |
| respectful and empathetic! Not only are they unable | | | | lot!c. Only allow positive people around your patient. |
| to determine your death, they are also unkind to | | | | EXPLAIN why the negative folks need to stay away, |
| make a remark like this. | | | | and help keep them away.d. Be very conscious of |
| If they say to you, "I was just making a realistic | | | | how YOUR energy can effect the "patient." |
| statement so you won't be in denial and we can | | | | If you view the patient in a "sick" condition, you are |
| address your will, funeral plans, and future provisions." | | | | sending negative energy their way! |
| FORGET THAT justification!!!!! NO ONE who truly | | | | If you have a negative attitude, or irritable |
| cares about your heart and soul, would ever say | | | | responses, you generate negative energy which |
| anything like that. | | | | lowers your patient's physical body frequency and |
| Do not be so needy for attention, that you allow | | | | DOES NOT help heal the disease. Your energy field |
| yourself to be the "victim" of comments that are | | | | will affect your patient.e. Keep your energy field |
| TOTALLY inappropriate!! no matter how sick you are. | | | | clean. Your patient is like a sponge and absorbs and |
| As long as there is breath in your body, you have | | | | interacts with all the energy surrounding them and |
| the right to be treated with respect and dignity, and | | | | that they are exposed to. |
| as if you are going to live!!! | | | | 5. Contributing Life force energy thru Love: |
| Family members as Caregivers: | | | | On numerous occasions, family and friends have |
| If you have spent your life helping others, and | | | | asked how they can contribute positive energy to |
| enabling them, it's time to stop that energy drain. | | | | the "patient." [An educational note: The hand that |
| This does NOT mean that you do not love them | | | | you write with is your energy sending hand. The |
| anymore. It means that you care enough about | | | | other hand is your energy input receiving hand.] So |
| yourself to take care of you FIRST, so that you can | | | | follow the directions below according to whether you |
| be around in the future to help them. | | | | are right or left handed. |
| Non-healing: 1. "But he's my brother and he just drinks | | | | Take your left receiving hand and place it on your |
| a little too much, and he wants to come visit"..... His | | | | heart, and take your right sending hand to hold the |
| energy will drain you!!! Visit with him when you are | | | | patient's left hand (receiving hand). Then say to the |
| healed! | | | | patient, "I send you the love from my Heart and it's |
| 2. At this time, YOU do NOT need to hear their | | | | healing life force energy to use as you so choose." |
| problems. They need to support you! | | | | You then become an "energizer" bunny for the |
| Friends as Caregivers: | | | | patient thru your love for them. |
| There are several kinds of friends during this time in | | | | You are invited to download our free pamphlet with |
| your life. | | | | excerpts from this book |
| The talkers: | | | | "Positive Attitudes, Affirmations & Actions to Help |
| They call to see how you are, listen for a short | | | | Survive Your Cancer Experience" ISBN#: |
| period of time and then spend hours telling you about | | | | 978-0-9766370-0-4.at |
| their life. They ask if they can do anything for you. | | | | Feel free to reprint this article in it's original format |
| When you mention that you need a ride to chemo | | | | with the disclaimer. |
| on Thursdays, their answer is, "I'd love to take you, | | | | CONTACT INFORMATION: |
| but I have book club." Do not be discouraged. This | | | | Brent Atwater, Alternative Medical Specialist |
| person is interested enough to call, but NOT | | | | Atlanta, GA 1.404.242.9022 USA |
| authentic about truly helping you or they would have | | | | NC Office: 1.910.692.5206 USAemail: Disclaimer: There |
| taken you to chemo........ There will be more book | | | | are no guarantees about the healing properties of |
| clubs, this is your battle with a disease! Thank them | | | | these suggestions. We can only state that positive |
| for calling, and get off the phone. | | | | results have been documented for individual clients |
| You are not THAT needy to have to talk with | | | | and research in this area continues. Ms Atwater is not |
| someone who won't really be there for you! | | | | a medical doctor or associated with any branch of |
| The Doers: | | | | medicine. Ms Atwater works in Alternative, |
| These are the friends that pick you up, sit through, | | | | Integrative and Complementary Medicine. She offers |
| and bring you home after chemo, and probably add | | | | her opinions based on her intuition, which is not a |
| fresh flowers to your home. Be thankful. They | | | | substitute for medical procedures or treatments. |
| encourage you to live with every dinner invitation, | | | | Always consult a physician or health care provider |
| movie, or "let's go to" invitation. GO! Do not feel like | | | | concerning any medical problem or condition before |
| you are "putting them out", "being a bother", or | | | | undertaking any diet, health related or lifestyle change |
| whatever. When you are well, YOU can DO for | | | | program. |
| them!!!!! They are your Earth Angels. | | | | There are no guarantees with any of the suggestions |
| Being the Caregiver for someone battling cancer, and | | | | in this publication. |
| going through cancer treatment is a job that requires | | | | |